You're Not Doing It Wrong. You're Just

Hi. Hey. Hello.

I’m Chantel — and if you’re here, there’s a very good chance you’re running on caffeine, vibes, and maybe 3 hours of broken sleep.

Before we go any further, let me say this clearly:

You’re not doing it wrong.

You’re just tired.

And tired brains are mean brains.

Let’s Start With the Truth

I became a mom at 25.

And listen… I did a lot of shit wrong.

I Googled everything.

I cried because the baby cried.

Then cried harder because I was crying.

I was convinced everyone else had parenting figured out — and I somehow missed the memo.

Spoiler alert: there is no memo.

There is no parenting handbook that magically makes this easy. There is just learning, adjusting, and figuring things out as you go — usually while extremely sleep-deprived.

So when I tell parents “you’re not failing”, I don’t say it from a place of perfection. I say it from experience.

A Little About Me

Some of my clients lovingly call me “the baby whisperer” — which sounds fancy, but really just means I’ve spent over 20 years working closely with newborns, babies, and very tired parents.

I’m a newborn care specialist, postpartum doula, and family support system, and babies have always been my passion. But just as important to me? Supporting parents.

Because babies don’t come with instructions — and parents deserve guidance without judgment.

My goal has never been to make families “do it the right way.”

My goal is to help families find what works for them.

Parenting Is Not One-Size-Fits-All

Let me say this louder for the exhausted parents in the back:

There is no single right way to parent.

What works for your friend may not work for you.

What worked yesterday may not work today.

What the internet says you should do may not fit your baby, your lifestyle, or your mental health — and that’s okay.

Parenting is not a formula.

It’s not a checklist.

It’s not a competition.

It’s trial and error. It’s flexibility. It’s learning your baby — and learning yourself — at the same time.

And no, you’re not behind.

Sleep Deprivation Changes Everything

Most of the panic, guilt, and “I’m messing this up” feelings parents experience aren’t because they’re bad parents.

They’re because they’re exhausted.

When you’re tired:

• Every cry feels urgent

• Every decision feels permanent

• Every mistake feels massive

But the truth is, many parenting “mistakes” are simply tired decisions — and tired people deserve compassion, not criticism.

Let’s Lift Each Other Up

Parenthood is hard enough without judgment, comparison, and shame.

There is no award for doing this alone.

There is no gold medal for suffering silently.

We’re all just trying to figure this shit out — and we do it better when we support each other instead of tearing ourselves down.

If You Need Support, I’m Here 🤍

If you’re pregnant and feeling overwhelmed

If you’re newly postpartum and exhausted

If you’re staring at your newborn thinking, “What now?”

I want you to know: you don’t have to do this alone.

At Serene Swaddles, I offer concierge-style newborn and family support — meaning we help with the things you don’t want to do, the things you don’t know how to do yet, and the things that feel heavy.

We support families with:

• Pregnancy preparation

• Newborn care and education

• Sleep guidance that fits your life

• Postpartum support

• Shopping, planning, organizing, and problem-solving

Real help. Real support. No judgment.

One Last Thing (Please Read This Again)

You’re not doing it wrong.

You’re learning.

You’re adjusting.

You’re tired.

And you’re doing the best you can — which is more than enough.

If you need support, reassurance, or someone firmly in your corner…

Hi. I’m Chantel. And I’m here for you.

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Chantel

Founder of Serene Swaddles